Custom is selfish
Two Kinds of Selfish
Looking in or looking out.
There’s the kind of selfish that includes looking inward, trying to understand ourselves
better – as in self-expression, self-motivation, self-examination, self-correction.
There is also what most think of as selfish, which is looking out for one’s self,
self-absorbed, stereotypically at the expense of another. That can include manipulation and denial with self-deception.
When the rules and laws start to get bent, being purposeful and able to be checked
is recommended – you may be in dangerous territory.
One Kind of Custom
Custom is unique to the individual and less about society in general. Custom includes the pushing of traditional boundaries. This can be a cornerstone of change and is the mindset in the process of any change. But also know that by separating yourself from the crowd the tall poppy theory
applies. If you grow too tall in the field, read that as – stand out – you will be cut down to match the height of all the others.
That brings the individual into the societal.
Custom And Standardized Culture
There are rules and laws. Do they apply to us equally?
There is the argument of the letter of the law vs. the spirit of the law. Should some laws or rules change in their interpretation when possible, if they don’t affect other people that the laws are designed to protect at the time? Mind you, that doesn’t mean disrespect the rule.
Consider if you go through a red light after you’ve stopped, waited, and saw no cars at
2 AM when returning home from a trip. You didn’t speed through, unaware. Did you break the law, yes. Should you pay the price if, say, an automated ticket was generated?
Again – letter vs. the spirit of the law.
What interpreter is enforcing that? We have police and courts for that.
How about looking at it from the enforcement point of view.
Aren’t we sure that people at seemingly every chance are trying to game the system?
People want what they want and they are all special enough in their own mind to warrant being allowed to their own way. Wouldn’t that get tiring to enforce as your job?
Look at how every call made in a basketball game is challenged by the coach or player called for the foul. Nearly every time the player is aghast and thinks they are blameless.
(Wasn’t me – bad call ref.)
Our Freedom Was Built On Custom
People want their way and our culture has promoted the idea that you can get
what you want. Go out there and get it, work for it, it’s there for the taking.
It’s what made America great but has a custom culture run rampant?
Has the balance been tipped away from freedom of our customs?
We want free trade when it comes to us personally but many respond with vitriol
saying people or businesses should have the restrictions placed on them, they are the ones who ruin it all. Hmmm…
It’s so hard to leave an injustice be. We want to right all the wrongs.
I contend that it just can’t be done. There will always be someone trying to cheat the
system. There needs to be measures in place to guard against or penalize the ones
practicing that bad behavior, but to spend all our time on enforcement changes
the culture to the negative.
Work towards and reward the positive traits we wish to see culturally. That is what
people naturally gravitate towards – what they are rewarded for – especially if it’s
as easy as trying to cheat the system is, and without the penalty. Take some of the budget spent on enforcement and allocate it to a benefit for those who do it the right way.
Protect custom to mean self-expression and not that the rules don’t apply to me.
Custom is selfish.
This should be seen as the good kind of selfish, the kind that pushes the best of our ideas forward, making better options for us all.
If you don’t like it, be the change that you want to see – that is being custom.