Convincing yourself to change - Dr. Bunk

Convincing Yourself To Change

I’ve heard it said that you have to
“be the change that you want to see.”

So how do you do that?
It takes all the resolve you can muster – plus the follow through when you’re tired, when you don’t feel like it, or when you’re not convinced you should.
But that is the way change will happen.

Self Talk

I found out that my self talk includes a little bit of complaining.
While I used to beat myself up about that, I’ve decided that maybe it helps. To change something is to be disgusted enough to do something about it.


The start of the process involves seeing things for what they currently are. Complaining serves to reinforce what change I want. It has to be turned however, or it takes root – and becomes a bitter root.


Moving from what is, to what I want it to be, is what I begin to tell myself repeatedly. When continued, this becomes what I believe and I can’t act on something I don’t believe. At least not repeatedly over time.


Sometimes it’s talking to myself out loud in my car and other times it’s just what I think about when I see things in my day. Things I don’t like stir me to acknowledge them and remind myself that I don’t want that in my life. By contrast, good examples I see are what I move towards in one way or another.


Within the last two years I have found that the more I envision it, the more I find myself – out of nowhere, almost as reflex – being up and actively doing something towards my pursuit. You subconsciously make choices that move in the direction of your stated goal.
In other words, I had to talk myself into it.


Change is hard.
When you’re able to convince yourself it’s possible, it turns into motion, then habit, then your every day.
Be aware of what you tell yourself –
it’s your life that’s being shaped.