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Why giving up is a position of strength

When you see less of me you like me more

Less Is More?
That goes against the hype machine of advertising
and especially the newly found voices on the web.

Self-promotion is at an all time high.
In our personal lives however, self-promotion doesn’t really work.
It’s hollow. We so often treat those we are “used to” with the least amount of our manners.

Our ability to properly give up to a situation in the moment shows respect for the bigger picture of getting along.
Getting along with people is how you are heard.

State your position and let it be

When we’re not at our best are we practicing being real?
Not our best is not really us.
Practicing involves some fails.
Let’s hope we are afforded some leeway in the middle of that.
One thing is for sure – it involves effort to do this on purpose.

Giving up is a position of strength in this area.
It leads by the example of self-control.
Overstating or badgering lessens your ability to be heard,
and ultimately respected.

Being mindful of effective communication is forgotten in the moment its needed.
Effective communication is putting across the real information, as opposed to competing in a conversation.

The first step leads to many

Trying is a huge first step.
Being aware of our intentions leads to effort.
We get around to someone else’s idea in our own time, in our own way.

Beyond discussing to decide, or stating a perspective, arguing to the end doesn’t solidify the point. It wears the others down and costs relationship. It’s more work, actually inefficient to continue to promote your stance to the very end.

Speaking your mind and letting it be gives others a chance to consider it in their own mind based upon its merit.

The controlling argument and confrontation is what people rebel against. The personal distaste will not allow even the thought to consider what was being said. The chance was lost for them to talk to themselves by putting ourself in the way, it closes the logic window. It is standing in between the point and the person, acting as a roadblock.

Winning an argument is missing the point.
Arguments don’t convince.
Try saying less to be heard.

Someone has to give first.



Some food isn’t worth it


The problem with oysters

Why is this food for us?
For starters, it’s protected
by a super hard rock of a shell.
If we want at it,
we have to get by that.
To me, it’s clear we’re not supposed to.


There was a first time for somebody.
It wasn’t getting away quickly,
they had the hunger,
and they checked into it.
It had to be primitive times for people
to look at that and even
think about eating it.
It makes as much sense
to try to plant it or
clean the cave walls with it.


I’ll bet you didn’t know that
the babies are called oyster spat.
Even at their cutest stage
they’re named for an argument.

So ok, they eventually opened up this oyster.
How, I don’t know, but some way they did it.
They open a jewel box
not knowing what they’ll find.

There’s a tongue in there.
No eyes, no body, just a tongue.


Today we still have to work to get it open.
We even designed tools for this operation.
Rather than give up on a
bad tasting menu item,
we went deeper and built tools.


The thing is, it never
got better as a food.
Because it tastes so awful
we have to slam it
with lemon and hot sauce
just to change or kill
the taste it comes with.
And don’t chew it.
You don’t chew it.
Well, ok, the experts say
two or three chews.
That’s a select crowd though.
There’s a few of everything
in this world.


Connoisseur’s excluded, the idea is to
get it to go down your throat
as quickly as possible and that’s
the enjoyment of an oyster.
After all that, that’s as good as it gets.


It’s so bad that a sales tactic
is one that says if you eat them,
it gets you all horndogged
and in the mood.
Not many foods need that
to get people to even consider it.
Take the biggest urge man has
and attach that to a food.
Oh, and apparently there’s
good ones and bad ones.
I don’t know how to tell.
I haven’t tried jellyfish either
– I’m sure someone has.


If this is anything like what the
meat story is like to vegetarians,
I just now understand their choice.