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The World Has Been Reset


There is no greater mountain in pro sports than the one the Cubs have just climbed to the top. After more than a century without a Championship, they had to get past the one way to win that was different from all other teams. They had to win in their collective minds first.

They found the ability to stay on top of negative thinking. Fear from negative thoughts leads to feeling the weight of that thought, which leads to improper focus which leads to mistakes. All of which would otherwise not happen. That’s what the curse did – allowed negative thought to dominate and creep in at the slightest hint of a problem.

From Curse To Cures

Manager Joe Madden spoke post-game about preparing them for the moments in crunch situations when it would turn bad – to stay calm and ride that out, then come back when they had the chance. They practiced it all season long, leading to the best record in all of baseball. The Cubs stayed motivated throughout those dips. They had leaders speak up at the right times to fill the air with the proper energy needed for each player to feed from. Most notably in Game 7, the biggest game in any of their lives.

They first off did not beat themselves.
That’s where the misdirection of a curse comes from.
You hear people who tell you that bad luck follows them around or that this is typical for my life – “that figures,” they say.
This can be refuted now.
The same letters that make up curse also include cures.

The formula was always there.
It’s there for you now.
When something turns bad, how you react to it is everything.

Let the Cubs winning the World Series reset you into a new model of thought, replacing any old thoughts that hold you back.

Yes, it’s experience and talent that must be there. Don’t stop your quest for more in the field you love.
Even if you are the best, without the proper foundation and belief leading to the right motivation, especially when it’s needed the most, you will always have yet another obstacle in your way – YOU.

Believe in yourself through the work you put in.
Do the work, believe that it’s going to workout.
There is no use for obstacles created by a lack of this principle.
There is no obstacle that can’t find it’s answer.

Baseball fans see how the sport mirrors life.
Let this biggest of sports obstacles lead you into the new world where curses are the stuff of fairy tales. Positive, repeated belief in the work you are doing is the process.

When times get tough and it’s hard to see straight, the way to remember this already has it’s own catch phrase:

There’s A Bison In The Room

Yeah, elephants are bigger
but a Bison confuses me more

Looking at an Elephant, you’re sure they’re thinking about what’s going on around them. A Bison? More like a cow when you look at it. Not sure what’s really going on in there. Is it fine or will it charge you? It does have horns and is of formidable size.

The Bison replaces the elephant as the misunderstood problem obvious to all who choose to look. Big and full of unknowns. The underlying problem is that nobody is saying anything about it. Calling it is where the solution begins.

Acknowledge the Bison in your room

What’s going on inside your head shouldn’t be as big a mystery as it might appear.
Name it so you can deal with it later.

If it brings you to a point where you can’t handle it then just absorb it. Let it be acknowledged and felt enough to encourage the change that will come later from dealing with it.
But do deal with it.

Dealing with it looks like this:
1. Know what IT is. Say it out loud to yourself.
2. Let it be and then come back to it, so it has some perspective without the irrationality of the emotion you bring in the moment.
3. Set it down at the feet of your beliefs – meaning put it out of your responsibility to handle for the time being. It’s bigger than you and so will the solve be.
Don’t worry about it’s solution just yet.
4. Get back to thinking through it when the answers start to emerge.

It’s likely that you could tell your friends what to do if this was their situation laid out in front of you. You have a knowledge inside of you of what’s best. You know a good path full of productive change when you’re in it. You do! Calling out the issue and letting it be removes the weight and pressure of making a decision under duress. Duress leads to bad decisions.

Name it, let it be, come back to it and repeat until it comes to you – it will. We’re such an immediate culture. Things take the time they take, so let them.

With a clear mind, taking the mud of emotion out, you see it with new resolve, with new solve.
There’s a strength in realizing that your best can come out when you aren’t getting in your own way. Give it up to get it back.

The best way through is to renew.

Negativity’s Running Mate

Negativity will show itself to be your fear.
Rather than building with encouragement, we see far too many examples where other peoples weakness is the topic.

We can ask – were we made stronger for exposing our fear of connection, our fear of being real?
It is not our best self.

So we should not engage with those operating in that manner other than to assist in stating another method of thought.
They are showing how afraid they are.

That is noticeable.
That helps little to nothing.

Let’s not be controlled by our fear.
Get busy doing what you love and fear subsides.

When you find out that you are afraid of something, an irrational fear, you owe it to yourself to face up to it.

Fear is a weight you feel and have to name before you can unload it.
Call it out to yourself and move forward.

The Melting Effects Of Realization


The good things in your life, the things you get really happy about, how did it get that way for you?


The things that are not working in your life, the things you sometimes feel powerless to change, are you able to realize why?


When you see something clearly, your choice, your path is obvious. Realization brings clarity, clarity brings direction.
All of a sudden the battles you used to have begin to melt away as you shift your focus towards the new realization. You will have found what needs your attention, what work gets your time.


How great is that?
That’s work worth doing.


Convincing Yourself To Change

I’ve heard it said that you have to
“be the change that you want to see.”

So how do you do that?
It takes all the resolve you can muster – plus the follow through when you’re tired, when you don’t feel like it, or when you’re not convinced you should.
But that is the way change will happen.

Self Talk

I found out that my self talk includes a little bit of complaining.
While I used to beat myself up about that, I’ve decided that maybe it helps. To change something is to be disgusted enough to do something about it.


The start of the process involves seeing things for what they currently are. Complaining serves to reinforce what change I want. It has to be turned however, or it takes root – and becomes a bitter root.


Moving from what is, to what I want it to be, is what I begin to tell myself repeatedly. When continued, this becomes what I believe and I can’t act on something I don’t believe. At least not repeatedly over time.


Sometimes it’s talking to myself out loud in my car and other times it’s just what I think about when I see things in my day. Things I don’t like stir me to acknowledge them and remind myself that I don’t want that in my life. By contrast, good examples I see are what I move towards in one way or another.


Within the last two years I have found that the more I envision it, the more I find myself – out of nowhere, almost as reflex – being up and actively doing something towards my pursuit. You subconsciously make choices that move in the direction of your stated goal.
In other words, I had to talk myself into it.


Change is hard.
When you’re able to convince yourself it’s possible, it turns into motion, then habit, then your every day.
Be aware of what you tell yourself –
it’s your life that’s being shaped.


Bugs Need Problems

Do you know a person who is often bugged about something and not shy in claiming it?

I’m not sure if constantly annoyed people know the extent of their problem.
It’s the gravity around their orbit.
Bugs–and that is people who are constantly bugged–go about living the same way they have been and wonder why bad things keep happening to them.
It’s wonder about the wrong thing. The focus is on the problem itself, not the solve, and this leads to feeling the weight of it. When we get past the problem we feel like we’re accomplishing something, affecting what our gravity pulls. When we don’t, we’re stuck in the mire.
Insecurity creates a feeling. That feeling becomes real. So a new problem gets created that overlays the actual problem.
The new problem then becomes that the annoyance takes top spot, not the process of figuring out the best solve. Feelings surround what you perceive as what will result, while the real result isn’t in yet.
Feelings are what comes out of you in several ways and are what others are affected by. That’s your gravity. That’s what is pulled towards you. Thinking creates feeling which becomes tangible. So thoughts are things. Thoughts create gravity.

Why problems are good

Change is growth.
Problems are your chance to see what may be glaringly obvious. They are ever-present. To make a life without problems is to not be involved in anything. Therefor, what you can do about what will always be there is change your reaction to it.
Think differently.
This may be a secret – everyone has problems. People who handle their obstacles have less of them, because how they do so doesn’t invite other ones. More than that, they are used to it and move on without making nearly as big a deal of it as a bug.
More Peace.

Your life will never be problem free

There is a correlation between being engaged in life and the problems you have. More involved = more hurdles. Those who work them out well have an easier time decoding the next ones and that leads to success over time. They don’t even become classified as troubles anymore.
The problem is a chance card in your game.
Use a problem in your day to wonder about it. Your version of what to do will come from your years of experience and knowing how you want your solutions and thus your gravity of what you pull towards you, to go.
Who in the entire world is better suited for that task than you?
Your odds are 1 in nearly 7 billion, and you are that one.
Solve your own sticking points. Get the info. Think about it. Do something.
Communication starts with talking to yourself.

Adult Taxonomy

How much of my time do you occupy?

It’s up to us to determine the proper balance in what we allow.
If we say yes to everything asked, they will continue to ask– and ask more.
If we say no to everything asked, we miss out on relationship.
Both are extremes and invite abdication.
Don’t move towards abuses of responsibility.
It’s our job to budget our time and place our priorities.
Often that means change.
Responsibility and Relationship are the categories.
Focus those.
That R&R focused is living well.

Social Scaling

Social Media Companies get big
because we  want to get big


Connection and sharing is why social media works.
As that was accepted and used it became big business.
Big business has it’s responsibilities.
So do we.


Social Media companies got us to voluntarily grow their base by allowing us to connect with people for free. Smart plan. This is a great thing, and we all knew it. Since about 2004, it was a new method to easily share information in all sorts of ways. It’s fun – we gained a bit of celebrity, having our post up there for all to see. We try to persuade the world to see it our way. We’re little movie stars.


Once that scaled, things began to change. Users egos obfuscated a site’s slow but steady increase in position. By promoting ourselves, we collectively promoted the company. By getting used to it, we couldn’t easily change away from it.


Reaching your friends is the main goal here, isn’t it still? And do we even think to call them? Nowhere near as much as we message them from the site or app.
When a big event in your life happens, it’s about our inner circle first and not all the multitudes of “friends.”


What a company does, we also do


Should we blame the companies without looking at our behavior as well?
We see company changes that slowly remove what we signed up for in our ability to connect as slight betrayals of the original concept. It leaves people feeling misled and manipulated.
Users manipulate too. Users try to get big by posting things that are either larger than life or are otherwise essentially spamming their “friends.” Facebook correctly made changes addressing like-baiting and link-spammers. They are marketing themselves, and often it’s far from the truth.


We’re all people involved in the human dynamic. “The company” is still a collection of individuals. What if we were to choose a company as we would a friend, knowing why we associate with them and keeping that straight.


A good concept grows when it helps people. I support loyalty to the principle of it’s founding. I support finding new ways of getting what you’re after without violating trust. Continued abuses should force us to rethink the support of our choice. Our habits are hard to break. This is counted upon and where the Titanic principle comes into play.


The onus is with us as users and not solely on the social media company.  The benefit of the internet is that we the people get to decide what works. It’s not a company simply putting an ad on TV. Now it’s about connection. And those who do it best, in this era, are and will continue to win.
This connection goes for our personal lives as well.


Shared purpose should have mutual benefits. When a business shifts the shared purpose away from the users, it opens the door for the next idea to come forward. Eventually people move to the next thing that delivers the ideal that a company forgot about.
It was thought that the Titanic was never going to sink. But it did. Errors of buying the sales pitch eventually brought it down.


Would connection to your real friends go away if your social media accounts did? Are you contacting or are you connecting?
Stay invested in connection.


Solve Your Own Problems

Solving your own problems is the best way to grow – the best way to know


We have arguably passed the information age by.
It moved from Industrial age to Information age and that quickly morphed into what’s termed the New Media era,  a temporary tag in my opinion, because whatever’s next will make the new old.
In any case, we have access to people who are good at what we need to know, anywhere they are and on our schedule. Amateurs to experts post the information for you. You can fix an appliance or do your own oil change, learn cooking, beer making, carpentry or architecture. You are limited solely by your interests and desire to know.


The steps of self-reliance are easier in this era


If the first action is to call somebody to handle the issue for things that can legitimately be done independently, realize that is it rarely more efficient. Further, its giving up the chance to grow.  The unintended consequence is wearing people out and getting no benefit.
In other words, being a user. People are willing to help only so far.
Delegating has it’s place to be certain, but only properly done and after being the example of one who gets things done. Delegate first to yourself instead.


Step number one in taking charge of your world and being a productive person is learning to count on yourself as far as you can. That’s the decision to DIY.


Step two is having the ability to figure out how to do what you don’t know how to do. Seek information. Google? You Tube, anyone?


Step three is knowing who best to hire for that which you don’t know and need a professional to do. Consider that you are paying them to learn something too. Such as using local handymen who make money with a side business because they are good at what they do. But professionals in the business are there for that very reason as well. Ask questions and seek some understanding, they’ll probably like sharing some of their professional knowledge with you.


Ancora Imparo


Don’t ever be done learning. Solving things feeds itself.
That eliminates the compulsion to overstate what we think we know in order to convince someone that we are something we aren’t.


Doing the work is the thing that is productive.
Talking about doing the work is pre-production.

What do you want to know how to do?

Start With Try

 Don’t let what you know
prevent you from making a difference


We know what he have to do.
We could say reminders like this are obvious.
They are.
Then why is it so hard for us to do what we know we should?


While he’s right of course, the mental step to get that resolve scares us. Being afraid to fail subconsciously stops us.
“What if…?”


The mental step before do is try.
It’s a small step but an important one.
It’s the initial push that starts the wheel moving, the impetus, the first forward motion. That is the tough part.


Effort Is Everything

With relationships as well as career paths, trying is the difference. Effort brings action. Action you can work with.


The issue isn’t trying and not succeeding. It’s not trying.
Success of any kind accepts failed efforts.
Trying brings some new level of understanding.
Improvement follows.
Not trying delivers expected results.


If becoming a Jedi isn’t your goal, then maybe we can bring it down a notch.
Start with try. Trying is doing. Keep doing.