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Bugs Need Problems

Do you know a person who is often bugged about something and not shy in claiming it?

I’m not sure if constantly annoyed people know the extent of their problem.
It’s the gravity around their orbit.
Bugs–and that is people who are constantly bugged–go about living the same way they have been and wonder why bad things keep happening to them.
It’s wonder about the wrong thing. The focus is on the problem itself, not the solve, and this leads to feeling the weight of it. When we get past the problem we feel like we’re accomplishing something, affecting what our gravity pulls. When we don’t, we’re stuck in the mire.
Insecurity creates a feeling. That feeling becomes real. So a new problem gets created that overlays the actual problem.
The new problem then becomes that the annoyance takes top spot, not the process of figuring out the best solve. Feelings surround what you perceive as what will result, while the real result isn’t in yet.
Feelings are what comes out of you in several ways and are what others are affected by. That’s your gravity. That’s what is pulled towards you. Thinking creates feeling which becomes tangible. So thoughts are things. Thoughts create gravity.

Why problems are good

Change is growth.
Problems are your chance to see what may be glaringly obvious. They are ever-present. To make a life without problems is to not be involved in anything. Therefor, what you can do about what will always be there is change your reaction to it.
Think differently.
This may be a secret – everyone has problems. People who handle their obstacles have less of them, because how they do so doesn’t invite other ones. More than that, they are used to it and move on without making nearly as big a deal of it as a bug.
More Peace.

Your life will never be problem free

There is a correlation between being engaged in life and the problems you have. More involved = more hurdles. Those who work them out well have an easier time decoding the next ones and that leads to success over time. They don’t even become classified as troubles anymore.
The problem is a chance card in your game.
Use a problem in your day to wonder about it. Your version of what to do will come from your years of experience and knowing how you want your solutions and thus your gravity of what you pull towards you, to go.
Who in the entire world is better suited for that task than you?
Your odds are 1 in nearly 7 billion, and you are that one.
Solve your own sticking points. Get the info. Think about it. Do something.
Communication starts with talking to yourself.


My son, 7 years old, outta nowhere said to me –
“What’s with that spider man?
The guy never picks up his web.”
That made me laugh.
I like writing down the funny things my kids say – what others say too.
I’ve done this for years, even before my wife and I had kids. I don’t exactly know why.
Keeping the good stuff for memories? Finding a laugh when I want one?
Is it deeper than that?
I do think it’s important to find things to laugh at.
Maybe it’s not proper in the ultra serious professional world but there is a time for it.
There’s the technique in professional circles to “break the ice.”
It’s sad if it has to be a technique though. It would be nice to be able to be serious when needed and still have the ability to be loose and have a laugh when it’s there to be had.
I think even a small laugh puts people at ease to be their best.
Professional funny people take the craft of being funny seriously. They write things down during their day, then go back and work it until it’s right. They try it out in front of people to further hone it. Being funny isn’t just lightheartedness or the ability to
smile about something. Turns out it’s just as much work as you put into your job.
It’s especially fun to see the pro’s have a laugh that’s spontaneous and uncrafted. Like these ones with Jerry Seinfeld, Chris Rock, Louis CK and Ricky Gervais.
The creation of the humor here is so rich because they are vamping off of each other to get to the joke.
I love it when you’re with someone you really click with and you two just go. Even though it’s rare to find that level of good interaction with others, to me it’s always worth it to look for the laugh in a situation where you can. Be creative in the moment. I’m not talking about laugh-a-minute, try too hard to be funny, borderline obnoxious stuff. Just flip the switch from serious to not so serious at the appropriate time.
That’s where the art of timing comes in.
Laughing is as much a mindset as it is an action. Using that mindset to find even one laugh will usually lighten the mood and lift any tension from a situation and you will most likely walk away feeling better overall.
So, what made you laugh today? Go tell somebody.