Turns out I can write better cards than Hallmark.
Their writers aren’t living my life.
When I have a good thought about someone in my circle of friends,
a practice I use is to let them know it.
It’s ironic that we have more communication tools and means than ever before
but our practice of communication is weaker than in the past.
It’s a human tool not simply machinery.
Think of it, how often do you get a text or email or phone message
where someone is telling you what a benefit you are to them in any way?
That thought that you had about that person came to you for some reason.
Act on it and see what happens.
Relationship is about being vulnerable/honest enough to tell the truth, good or bad.
If it’s easy to tell someone what they did wrong, that’s not nearly as constructive
as you think.
Being convinced against your will isn’t being convinced.
Telling them what you like about them or value, that would be affirming
and strengthen your ability to be listened to later if they did something
needing corrective input.
It’s easier than ever now.
I’ll shoot a text message when that happens to me.
When I get some of that back, I might reply that I’m glad to have thought of them today,
even just this quickly.
It’s funny how good conversations you have with trusted friends
seem to contain the very thing you need to hear.
I had a discussion with a good friend that shaped my thoughts due to their wisdom.
After having dinner with friends, I’ll text them later what I liked about our time,
a good line of the night or just that I appreciated it.
Very simple and not sappy. Real.
It’s what I love about New York – the ability to be real.
No problem telling you anything, good or bad.
The mindset seems to be – There’s things to do. I gotta get to ’em.
The result is that you know where you stand and you have the chance
to feel appreciated by those in your circle.
You have an affect others, make it a bond strengthening one.