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Why Failing Is Good For You

Failure sharpens you in many ways

To gain experience you will fail. Failing is part of the process. Failing readies you.
Failing is the time before dreams happen, a time for you to work on your character. Character is a necessary ingredient to being where you want to be – succeeding in your life and your endeavor. Failure is the time when some big self-evaluating tests come. How you handle them shapes your character, each one, choice by choice. Repeated over time, it sets into your personality and shapes your decisions. While it is possible to have monetary success without character being formed, it will eventually show you to be incomplete, and thus not successful at life.

 

What failure means and how deep it goes you might not know. You may have a lot to say about not making catastrophic errors. You may not. It’s all the process.
What you find out along the way not only sharpens character but sharpens your workflow. Your craft gets better. Your direction may change but your processes improve.

 

Failing means action. You have to take your idea and plan it, work it, do it. Give your plan a chance to improve by failure, by some activity. Success is the end game of any step, allowing you to move on to the next one. So mini failures in the steps of each part of a plan can be read as constant improvement in small doses, or refinement.

 

Success to many can imply relaxing a little more – kicking your feet up – letting the system you’ve built work for you. Failure means you have a lot more to do. Just like the idea of retirement. If you love what you do you may never retire. I’ll take action and failure to shape my life for the rest of my life.

 

Failing is succeeding. It’s the verb of successes formula because it is the action, succeeding is the result. Make your plan and go fail until it works.

 
 

The Junker In My Life

Is Your Car You?

I’m hanging out with a friend who drives this wonderfully junky car.
Of course it’s got a name, and it should.
This person, I think, is maybe a little embarrassed by the car.
I guess I’m not sure but there’s usually some tone approaching apology about the car from them. Mostly, they don’t care that much.
 
Here’s the thing though, they live a life that most of us would like to be living.
They’re free to create, and they do. They’re surrounded by their fun choices, their works of art – which are many and in many forms. They live a rich life with many well developed relationships. They walk around town saying hi to people and engaging with people and laughing and having a good time. They’re not playing the game that often starts early in life with a car payment and keeping up with what others have.
 
Would they like to have a new car? Sure they would.
Would they be this way if they had money and were busy keeping up with the Joneses?
Maybe a little but almost certainly they would not be as engaged in the benefits of care-free living if they had increasingly more to lose. The pressure to keep it can often outweigh the acceptance of their current level.
 
We’ve all got some struggles, but I’ll take their happier life and a crappy car.
One day you can upgrade to a better car.
Finding the way to make that metaphorical, to be living the concept, is the pursuit.
 
How far along in life are we gonna get before we realize that a certain behavior is too deep seeded to change now?
How far along in life are we gonna get before we put the priority on the things that really matter?
It’s always such a contradiction that what we seek isn’t best for us to actually reach.
It’s the process that makes us.
Always having something to reach for, to better ourselves, is the value.
Reaching goals means you get to set new ones.
 
Should we keep fixing up this junker?
We’re all broken to some degree.
Even a new car has flaws.

Unifying The Art / Sport Divide

 

The Process Or The Result?

Sports and art have two different pursuits.
In sports, the competitive nature promotes seeking to be the best. Winning is everything. You’re training is about pushing you to the limits and you are never done. There is only keeping up – with yourself or others. The focus is so much about coming out on top that to win is actually more of a relief then just pure joy, therefor your focus is actually not to lose. You can’t enjoy the process with an unknown outcome.

Andre Agassi said that “the pain of losing an event like Wimbledon far outweighs winning, and lasts longer.” If you win, that’s just what you were supposed to do, if you lose there’s that pain plus the psychological effects you didn’t train for.

With art, there is joy in the creation. There is fulfillment in the process.
The end game is not as important as the journey of creation.
It’s why artists are so often not finishers. They love the process so much that just one more tweak is always possible.

Because they live in the process, artists can afford a built-in spirit of generosity.
Because of their discipline, athletes get results from strong finishes.
Both affect change.

You can’t say that either are more happy as a group than the other.
There is art in sports, that is how the athlete creates. Their pressure is the value judgement of “yeah, but did you win?”

There is regimen in artistry. It’s how the artist has a body of work. Their pressure comes from what it takes to create a vision combined with criticism of their personal works of art – both reasons so many creators seek escapes from reality.

If (imo) the best athletic artist Michael Jordan didn’t finish, if the ball didn’t end up in the hoop, all the moves to get it there would be dismissed as his art getting in the way of the results.
Art must finish but affords more latitude in it’s interpretation.

Finding the artistic expression is a way to enjoy your life.
Finishing is what brings results.
In life, winning isn’t only about being first, it’s more about the process of finishing.
Can you do enjoy the process and finish?

Failing Is Succeeding

The Pluses of Minuses

To gain experience you will fail.
Good for you!

 

Failing is part of the process. Failing readies you.
Failing is the time before hopes are made real for you to work on your character.

Character is a necessary ingredient to being where you want to be – succeeding in your
endeavor. To not have character with success is to not hold success for long.
Or be a mess. Or for that matter, to even know what success is.

The Character of Failure

Failure is a time when some big tests come. How you handle that shapes your character.
Your fragility with disappointment is the work. Repeated over time, it sets into your
personality and shapes your decisions. What failure means and how deep it goes,
you might not know. Hopefully you have a say in avoiding catastrophic errors.
That’s the traditional idea of failure – the extreme.
It’s all the process and it’s different for everybody. Barring catastrophe, failure is your slight course correction.

What you find out along the way not only sharpens character but sharpens your workflow.
Your craft gets better. Even through direction changes your process improves.

If there is no contentment with achievement you won’t be satisfied.
Some of that keeps you moving but realizing that you are doing what you
intend to be doing is to be content in the process.

Let failing do it’s work

Failing means action.
Success to many can imply relaxing more – kicking your feet up – letting the system you’ve built work for you. Failure means you have a lot more to do.
Like the idea of retirement.
If you love what you do, you may never retire.
I’ll take action and failure to shape my life for the rest of my life.

Quitting is easy to mix in with failing. Quitting stops.
It’s then a known answer. Quitting is a major course correction.

Failing is actually succeeding.
Failing is the verb of the success process because it is the action.
Succeeding is the result.

 

WHAT IS ART?

 

Art has become a polarizing word.
It’s misunderstood because
people are misunderstood.

 

Art, like life, is the process of starting with nothing
and ending with something

Art is so many things.
It can be be a painting, a song, a sculpture,
metal work, food, writing, clothing styles,
how your room/house looks, your hair,
your car, the way you speak, how you assist others,
teaching, how you sell or market, your craft, your job–
the list is incredible to become fully aware of.

 

There is no adequate synonym for art.
Much like your name becomes you.
You have to put yourself into your art
to find even it’s single difference.
That difference will resonate with some,
in the way that building a friendship does.

 

The thing to notice about art is that
it rarely comes out fully planned and
digestible to the mass public at it’s seed.
It takes the openness to receive the inspiration.
Next it takes the skill building to put it into being
using whatever medium you have chosen.
And finally it takes crafting to refine.
Throughout that process the seed grows
into a fully grasped, living thing.

 

You play a part but not the only part.
It’s you but it’s also not you.
You put yourself into it but it gives more than you.

 

It’s misunderstood because the piece
reflects the artist and is interpreted
by each individual with their own sense of style.
Each one different.
It’s the personality of the piece that gets picked apart,
in the same way people do to each other.

 

Many artistic people think their art isn’t as great
as others do because they process their work
by other people’s views and standards.
When you are in the midst of creating,
you are in your own world.
When you show it, you see it through the viewers eyes,
and you are more critical to the vulnerability of it.
As is the parallel of good relationships.

 

Those who are committed artists
know they have to work it through.
They are concerned with the process and
they understand more of themselves and
their place in the world in the pursuit of a finished piece.

 

And maybe most important to see
is that the process is art.

 
Every artist gets the seed but fewer follow it to completion.
Go through the creating and let it be what it is at that time.
It won’t be understood by everyone.
It’s not the same thing spit out over and over.
It’s new.
We have to dig in to find out about it – about us.

Art is misunderstood because it speaks to it’s uniqueness.
It’s hard to make something new.
It’s also hard to be you.
You are unlike anyone else.
Putting yourself into a piece ensures it’s uniqueness.
Finding the personality in others’ work
makes it different than any others like it.
Getting comfortable with that
is getting comfortable with yourself.

It’s all a working process.
Art is your life.

 

RESOLUTIONS – PICK ONE THING

Show yourself change.

Pick one small thing.
Think overly simple.
A stupidly simple thing when you look at it on paper.

 

How about one thing that you haven’t done but need to.
Change that light bulb, download photos from your phone,
clean your refrigerator, dust just that one area,
bring that box out to the shed already,
go give that pile of stuff away, backup your computer,
make a smoothie.
It takes 30 seconds – maybe 10 minutes.
You’re not too busy.

 

Or that need can come from the heart.

Smile when you make eye contact
with someone in public, just once.
Give your kid a hug
and tell them something you love about them.
Kiss your mate out of nowhere
and with nothing attached.
You’re not too busy.

Small moves become big when you show yourself you can do them.
You’re not too busy.

Today is one day of a process you will show yourself capable of.
Stupidly simple when you look at it on paper.
It’s all been said and done before.
But has it been done by you?

Be busy with the simple and right things.
That’s small but very real change.