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Bugs Need Problems

Do you know a person who is often bugged about something and not shy in claiming it?

I’m not sure if constantly annoyed people know the extent of their problem.
It’s the gravity around their orbit.
 
Bugs–and that is people who are constantly bugged–go about living the same way they have been and wonder why bad things keep happening to them.
 
It’s wonder about the wrong thing. The focus is on the problem itself, not the solve, and this leads to feeling the weight of it. When we get past the problem we feel like we’re accomplishing something, affecting what our gravity pulls. When we don’t, we’re stuck in the mire.
 
Insecurity creates a feeling. That feeling becomes real. So a new problem gets created that overlays the actual problem.
 
The new problem then becomes that the annoyance takes top spot, not the process of figuring out the best solve. Feelings surround what you perceive as what will result, while the real result isn’t in yet.
 
Feelings are what comes out of you in several ways and are what others are affected by. That’s your gravity. That’s what is pulled towards you. Thinking creates feeling which becomes tangible. So thoughts are things. Thoughts create gravity.
 

Why problems are good

Change is growth.
Problems are your chance to see what may be glaringly obvious. They are ever-present. To make a life without problems is to not be involved in anything. Therefor, what you can do about what will always be there is change your reaction to it.
Think differently.
 
This may be a secret – everyone has problems. People who handle their obstacles have less of them, because how they do so doesn’t invite other ones. More than that, they are used to it and move on without making nearly as big a deal of it as a bug.
More Peace.
 

Your life will never be problem free

 
There is a correlation between being engaged in life and the problems you have. More involved = more hurdles. Those who work them out well have an easier time decoding the next ones and that leads to success over time. They don’t even become classified as troubles anymore.
 
The problem is a chance card in your game.
Use a problem in your day to wonder about it. Your version of what to do will come from your years of experience and knowing how you want your solutions and thus your gravity of what you pull towards you, to go.
Who in the entire world is better suited for that task than you?
Your odds are 1 in nearly 7 billion, and you are that one.
 
Solve your own sticking points. Get the info. Think about it. Do something.
Communication starts with talking to yourself.
 
 

Unifying The Art / Sport Divide

 

The Process Or The Result?

Sports and art have two different pursuits.
In sports, the competitive nature promotes seeking to be the best. Winning is everything. You’re training is about pushing you to the limits and you are never done. There is only keeping up – with yourself or others. The focus is so much about coming out on top that to win is actually more of a relief then just pure joy, therefor your focus is actually not to lose. You can’t enjoy the process with an unknown outcome.

Andre Agassi said that “the pain of losing an event like Wimbledon far outweighs winning, and lasts longer.” If you win, that’s just what you were supposed to do, if you lose there’s that pain plus the psychological effects you didn’t train for.

With art, there is joy in the creation. There is fulfillment in the process.
The end game is not as important as the journey of creation.
It’s why artists are so often not finishers. They love the process so much that just one more tweak is always possible.

Because they live in the process, artists can afford a built-in spirit of generosity.
Because of their discipline, athletes get results from strong finishes.
Both affect change.

You can’t say that either are more happy as a group than the other.
There is art in sports, that is how the athlete creates. Their pressure is the value judgement of “yeah, but did you win?”

There is regimen in artistry. It’s how the artist has a body of work. Their pressure comes from what it takes to create a vision combined with criticism of their personal works of art – both reasons so many creators seek escapes from reality.

If (imo) the best athletic artist Michael Jordan didn’t finish, if the ball didn’t end up in the hoop, all the moves to get it there would be dismissed as his art getting in the way of the results.
Art must finish but affords more latitude in it’s interpretation.

Finding the artistic expression is a way to enjoy your life.
Finishing is what brings results.
In life, winning isn’t only about being first, it’s more about the process of finishing.
Can you do enjoy the process and finish?

CHANGE EVALUATION

Look at your routines.
I know you like them.
Are they doing
what you want them to?
Are they good for you?
You get up in the morning, probably have a cup of coffee,
shower, brush your teeth.
From this point on most of your day revolves around your built-in habits.
From the words you say, to the actions you take.
It’s not easy to look at them for what they are.
It’s more truthfully a comfort to you.
It’s what you do.

 

What happens when you’re on vacation?
Do your routines stay the same?
Some do, and some are forced to flex around the new day’s plans.
You don’t have to brush your teeth like you have to go to the bathroom.
But you do that.

 

Self-talk
So the question is – which habits help you, and which are the comfort of routine?
Can you be honest with yourself or will you justify your habits that aren’t helping?
Identifying is the first and most difficult part
because it requires not just change of habits but mind.
Here’s an example:
You’re in a meeting and you think of ways to make the changes
the boss seeks/company needs.
You know it would take a culture shift to do it the right way,
the way you want to say outloud.
But if you do, you would be scorned, dismissed, or
thought of as one who doesn’t go with the flow.

 

Are you personally setting up daily ways to get better results
based upon your best solutions or do you just go with the industry
and say what most every other person in your position says in a meeting
just like the one you are in?
Not an easy evaluation.

Let’s look for the real point.
Is it to keep your job average at an average company
attempting excellence through average processes?
Evaluation leads to trouble in your mind.

Of course this is nothing compared to the next step.
Change.
Change is the fulcrum of our lives.
Change is always in between where you wanna be and where you are.

But, first things first.
Do the evaluation.
If the evaluation challenges you – good.
You may have to change your path to get where you really want to go.
Is it scary? Ok, I’ll go with that.

Project your future.
If you keep doing what you’re doing,
you’ll get all the same type of results as you are now.
Is that scary enough to change?
Or maybe you’re on plan. It’s still worth a look forward.
You can certainly get results you’re after with a long-term
process that includes discipline and consistency.

Do the evaluation to determine what things, little or big
are worthy of your attention.
Do you need to make a plan or are you on plan?
Live your life, not the lives of all the average people
around the proverbial boardroom table.
Change Evaluation is on your action item list now.

GO!

WHAT IS THERE TO APPRECIATE?

Your answer will depend a lot
on how you feel today.
But the question is always a valid one.
Where you direct your attention is where you get your results.
If something has a negative hold on you, dealing with it is most likely needed.
But focusing on it, dwelling on it – well that doesn’t really help at all.
It becomes too dominant of a negative in your day.

 

Think of something you were looking forward to from any time in your life.
Birthday parties or Christmas or a friends sleepovers or
going to a baseball game or a trip.
All of these and many more held your focus in anticipation.
That anticipation was full of uncertainty too.
But if you remember, you were full of excitement about it.
You didn’t dwell on what could go wrong, what was bad about it.
It was gonna be great no matter what.

 

Isn’t there something to find in our every day
that can have even the seed of that?
If you can find it, it will grow.
You will wear it and people will know,
they will be affected by it.

 

When the speedbump in any day comes,
something that could disrupt the focus,
deal with it quickly and keep on.
You’re busy appreciating.

 

Reality is what you do.
The dream is where it started.

THE AMERICAN DREAM IS ABOUT THE IRRITANT

Have we dropped the ball on the American Dream?
What is the American dream and how has it changed?
It used to be a term borne out of mass action by people
who were ready to accomplish something every day.
Now it’s different than it was. How do we get it back?

 

What the American Dream is really about is overcoming any kind of adversity
and forging on with your particular goal, your dream.
We have the ability to work hard at something and see results here in America.
If you didn’t earn things on your own then you need to develop the character
to accomplish that. Work builds character.
The Dream is about the irritant
The crumb in your bed that makes you get up and once and for all wipe it away.
The barking chihuahua in your life that you finally decide to get away from –
metaphorically speaking.
How we deal with the problems determines what we are able to produce.
Things don’t often change when all is thought to be fine.
When you really are tired of living the way you are, or getting the results you are,
you then actually DO something about it.
You deal with the sand in your shell and have the makings that produce a pearl.

 

The American Dream requires removing any bad habits that get in the way
and replacing them with every day habits whose actions move you towards your dream.
It has to be like a job you go to. No escapes.
You do this everyday from 6:00 to 8:00 or whenever your time allows it.
Build it into your schedule and results will come.
Even those who are less than the best in their chosen field can make a living
through constant and repeated effort.
You get better at that which you spend your time doing.
You find your specialization.
People slowly begin to accept that you’re going to be there, doing that.

 

Another thing happens when you are consistently involved in your pursuit of happiness –
more opportunities that you would have never considered show up.

 

Like a pearl that forms from slow, repeated coverings of nacre
to an irritant grain of sand, it’s covering over the problem.
It’s doing something about it – transforming it.
Let the intrusion to your schedule and the uncomfortableness of what it takes
to do what you love be the irritant.
That becomes your nacre.

 

Keep your job.
Build in YOUR job – create your pearl.
GO!