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Why giving up is a position of strength

When you see less of me you like me more

What?
Less Is More?
That goes against the hype machine of advertising
and especially the newly found voices on the web.

Self-promotion is at an all time high.
In our personal lives however, self-promotion doesn’t really work.
It’s hollow. We so often treat those we are “used to” with the least amount of our manners.

Our ability to properly give up to a situation in the moment shows respect for the bigger picture of getting along.
Getting along with people is how you are heard.

State your position and let it be

When we’re not at our best are we practicing being real?
Not our best is not really us.
Practicing involves some fails.
Let’s hope we are afforded some leeway in the middle of that.
One thing is for sure – it involves effort to do this on purpose.

Giving up is a position of strength in this area.
It leads by the example of self-control.
Overstating or badgering lessens your ability to be heard,
and ultimately respected.

Being mindful of effective communication is forgotten in the moment its needed.
Effective communication is putting across the real information, as opposed to competing in a conversation.

The first step leads to many

Trying is a huge first step.
Being aware of our intentions leads to effort.
We get around to someone else’s idea in our own time, in our own way.

Beyond discussing to decide, or stating a perspective, arguing to the end doesn’t solidify the point. It wears the others down and costs relationship. It’s more work, actually inefficient to continue to promote your stance to the very end.

Speaking your mind and letting it be gives others a chance to consider it in their own mind based upon its merit.

The controlling argument and confrontation is what people rebel against. The personal distaste will not allow even the thought to consider what was being said. The chance was lost for them to talk to themselves by putting ourself in the way, it closes the logic window. It is standing in between the point and the person, acting as a roadblock.

Winning an argument is missing the point.
Arguments don’t convince.
Try saying less to be heard.

Someone has to give first.