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Friends For Life

Everybody has a central issue that
negatively affects their life

Most don’t even know it.
Do you?

Is it credit seeking?
Is it self-esteem, value?
Is it fairness or justice?

These are things that likely are deep-seated from childhood in most cases. There are also inherent genetic or chemical issues that have been developed by your make up. Maybe you’ve been around a poor influence for a long period of time and you got lost in that way of thinking.

Finding this out gives you the ability to address it and understand where problems can come from and then how to deal with them effectively.

It’s the hardest part of the entire equation because you are forced to realize that you are in fact, not good at something that is holding you back. That is never fun to admit. We all have that thing to admit though. That’s a part of being human.

What you do after acknowledging that you need work should come from a more healthy place. There is a level of submission to something you don’t fully understand. It softens the hard exterior that other people couldn’t relate to you through. What people see as vulnerable and in need of protection is actually the very thing that allows another to relate honestly with a person. This is what relationships are really all about.

There are people you know right now that you could be much better friends with. Something is missing and you’re not sure what it is.

What does being a friend look like?

Among other things it means not trying so hard to convince other people that you have all the answers. Your opinion may, in fact, be correct but if it costs relationship by brow-beating someone with whom you are in a conversation, you’ve won nothing. They are not more impressed by you. Allow people their thoughts too. You may come away with a new perspective.
That’s also called growth.

Some won’t put in the effort and their results will show it.
There are, however, many waiting for those of us willing to be a friend – to any degree. That means liking someone enough to listen.
Even at the gas station or quickly at the grocery store. From that comes the parts of your life that are about to get better. Having good friends will affect you in a much bigger than expected way – even one or two more.

It is statistically shown to lengthen life and reduce things like high blood pressure and stress. These aren’t things you think about but the results are in – making this effort as clinical and real as anything your doctor could prescribe.
This is for the benefit of your life.
The true, deep, honest and meaningful benefit of your life.

If asked, everyone would say that they want a good life, and as long as possible. That end goal is why the effort is needed now.

It’s worth it to know.
It’s worth it to fight through.
We all have it but not everyone has overcome it.

Are you able to question the kind of friend you are?
The quality of your life dares you to try.

Dentists Mess With Your Head

I didn’t expect mental floss

I was diagnosed with Bruxism.
It’s okay, it sounds worse than it is.
My dentist told me I grind my teeth.
I was asked if I did and I said no. But I do.
The signs were obvious to a professional. He knows me better than I do.
This is deeper than I thought.


The results of teeth grinding can be telling and mildly destructive.
The problem is, I can’t control what I am unaware of. Like when people get mad at you for snoring.


I’m told teeth grinding is most likely a reaction to stress.
That’s another question I’d answer no to.
I don’t think I’m stressed out ever.
My teeth would argue that.
The day after my appointment I caught myself grinding. Aaah gurf, he was right!
Another spot of wear on my teeth indicated a different grind, one I must be doing at night. Now how am I gonna do anything about stopping what I do at night?


Reaction or prevention

Dental therapy was not what I saw coming. I was getting mental braces to correct my mind and get it to line up right.

I was getting advice where my teeth were the catalyst for a psychological discussion.
I was talking with a dentist about stress.

What we think is so much bigger than we realize.
Our body hits autopilot on so many functions we are unaware of – good and bad.
If I was to attack the issue with props like a mouth guard, I wouldn’t be challenging the stress. It only serves to minimize the effect of the stress reaction.
So our solves put us always back to our thinking life.


As a man thinketh, so is he.
2000 year old wisdom.
Our thoughts can cure or breakdown.
Our thoughts are our choice.
The choice seems obvious.
The practice is tougher.


My insurance wouldn’t cover dental psychotherapy.
I had to pay for learning that lesson on my own.