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Success in increments

Everything big that we are wowed by,
is bound by its small connectors

 
It was started today, in the tiniest of ways, by a decision to be okay with all there was yet to know, being involved enough to grow.
 
If you start, you will have something.
If you do it again, You will find out just a little bit more to make it better. If you do it a third time, and a fourth, and fifth, each time you find tiny little ideas or fixes that make your work better. Pretty soon you’re in a completely different place than you were at the beginning – when you were fearful about all that you didn’t know or all that you thought you could not do.
 
Start with a smile
to get to gaining attention,
to get to hello,
to get to a conversation,
to get to a friendship.
 
We do all things in this way.
This incremental method.
Sure, begin with the end in mind.
The process is what we live.
 
We seem to think there are those having some unobtainable answer. They don’t. They have earned their method. We all get to what we know by doing it over and over, getting better each time. In work, in love and in life. Tiny, seemingly inconsequential bits at a time.
 
The right bond holds together everything of immense value.
 
Engage in and take some contentment, even joy from the smallest of increments. The small parts are always building something bigger.
 
Where are you laying that single brick today?
What are you building up?
 

Honor your Struggle

The struggle is essential to doing anything worthwhile

 

There are obstacles to overcome, always.
They may have little or nothing to do with your chosen enterprise.
In order to move forward with your goals, you must solve them or stagnate.

 

Rather than bemoaning the problems that arise, you must force yourself to realize that this is actually the path to your goal. It’s you actively realizing your dream.

 

What you gain from solving issues fills you up in ways you never imagined as being central to your pursuit. You are empowered bit by bit through the difficulties. It not only pushes you forward in your working progress, but it prepares you with fortitude and determination.

 

When things are easy there is little invested. When things fail, along with the pain, it allows the growth and experience needed as part of the process to be less harsh, leading a charge of small successes propelling you through what comes next.

 

Quitting, by contrast, tells the story to the last page, right away.

 

It should be hard because changing a person is not what we thought our goal really was.
Rest assured that it is.
We are being prepared, taught. You need the struggle to succeed.
Find a comfort in knowing your struggle.
It means your dream is really happening.
Push on.

 

Why Failing Is Good For You

Failure sharpens you in many ways

To gain experience you will fail. Failing is part of the process. Failing readies you.
Failing is the time before dreams happen, a time for you to work on your character. Character is a necessary ingredient to being where you want to be – succeeding in your life and your endeavor. Failure is the time when some big self-evaluating tests come. How you handle them shapes your character, each one, choice by choice. Repeated over time, it sets into your personality and shapes your decisions. While it is possible to have monetary success without character being formed, it will eventually show you to be incomplete, and thus not successful at life.

 

What failure means and how deep it goes you might not know. You may have a lot to say about not making catastrophic errors. You may not. It’s all the process.
What you find out along the way not only sharpens character but sharpens your workflow. Your craft gets better. Your direction may change but your processes improve.

 

Failing means action. You have to take your idea and plan it, work it, do it. Give your plan a chance to improve by failure, by some activity. Success is the end game of any step, allowing you to move on to the next one. So mini failures in the steps of each part of a plan can be read as constant improvement in small doses, or refinement.

 

Success to many can imply relaxing a little more – kicking your feet up – letting the system you’ve built work for you. Failure means you have a lot more to do. Just like the idea of retirement. If you love what you do you may never retire. I’ll take action and failure to shape my life for the rest of my life.

 

Failing is succeeding. It’s the verb of successes formula because it is the action, succeeding is the result. Make your plan and go fail until it works.

 
 

Failing Is Succeeding

The Pluses of Minuses

To gain experience you will fail.
Good for you!

 

Failing is part of the process. Failing readies you.
Failing is the time before hopes are made real for you to work on your character.

Character is a necessary ingredient to being where you want to be – succeeding in your
endeavor. To not have character with success is to not hold success for long.
Or be a mess. Or for that matter, to even know what success is.

The Character of Failure

Failure is a time when some big tests come. How you handle that shapes your character.
Your fragility with disappointment is the work. Repeated over time, it sets into your
personality and shapes your decisions. What failure means and how deep it goes,
you might not know. Hopefully you have a say in avoiding catastrophic errors.
That’s the traditional idea of failure – the extreme.
It’s all the process and it’s different for everybody. Barring catastrophe, failure is your slight course correction.

What you find out along the way not only sharpens character but sharpens your workflow.
Your craft gets better. Even through direction changes your process improves.

If there is no contentment with achievement you won’t be satisfied.
Some of that keeps you moving but realizing that you are doing what you
intend to be doing is to be content in the process.

Let failing do it’s work

Failing means action.
Success to many can imply relaxing more – kicking your feet up – letting the system you’ve built work for you. Failure means you have a lot more to do.
Like the idea of retirement.
If you love what you do, you may never retire.
I’ll take action and failure to shape my life for the rest of my life.

Quitting is easy to mix in with failing. Quitting stops.
It’s then a known answer. Quitting is a major course correction.

Failing is actually succeeding.
Failing is the verb of the success process because it is the action.
Succeeding is the result.

 

TIME PAYMENTS

Of more value than money.
More constant than feelings.

 

It’s the only thing we all have equal amounts of every day.
Time is what you have.
Time is also the cost.
All else results from your spending of it.

 

Quite a lot of being a good spouse, parent or friend
is just being there.
…remember that time?

 

You invest by the use of it.
Success of any kind is a result of the amount of it you put in.
Value is created by your use of it.
It’s what focus is – concentrated activity.

 

What are you doing later?
How about now?
How will you pay for it?

THE KEY TO SUCCESS

Be likeable and easy to get along with.
Pretty much that’s it.

Ok, you have to be going for excellent in some way.
You have to be better than good at what you do.

But how to be likeable?

That’s the meat of the sandwich. (Unless you’re a vegan.)
I have seen many instances of people trying to climb the corporate ladder and stepping
on others to gain position or stature. It’s ugly. It’s nothing anyone wants to be around.
Even outside of work, you know when you’re being gamed. You know when someone
thinks something less than good about you, or is just trying to put you beneath them.
You can sense it when you walk away from an interaction with that person and you
feel odd about it. That can be clue #1. I find that my suspicions are most often right
when I get my spidey sense tingling in that way. It ’s a pattern that you’re finding,
not an instance. Not that I’ll know why, just that somethings up. In my past that has
triggered a response mechanism of trying too hard in either direction.
Either I’ll try to be nicer to that person to get approval, or I dismiss them and start
treating them with a certain level of contempt. Neither one gets me to place I want to be.

Mostly I realize what I’m doing because I don’t like how I’m living my life as a result.
It’s pervasive.
It eeps into most corners of my day, and really, I become kind of a jerk inside my own head.

The biggest thing I have realized was that all of that actually is up to me.
How I react becomes who I am to other people.

To deal with it I have had to be alone and do something that could get my head and heart to a good spot.
I would do something that I like doing. Something that is me.
Then, when I am in my right thinking mind from that, I bring up the thoughts to myself
that were dragging me down. Pretty quickly I put them into perspective and am able to,
as one of my good friends Rich Beck, Master guitar luthier said,
“blow it off like a bad smell.”

I think we all have jerks in side of us.
But we all have likability and all the good stuff too.

We don’t seem to realize the keys to success until we are looking back.
There are so many triggers of emotion that the fight or flight response kicks us
in a certain direction and we respond automatically without any real control or knowledge
of those emotions. To be overly general, Men think feelings are weak and women are more
engaged in emotions. Let’s just say we humans don’t give enough credit to what role
emotions actually play in our personalities and how we put ourselves out there
in the world.

My wrap on this is that if you are likable and easy to be around,
more things come your way professionally and personally.
You attract in others what you feed in to them.
So it’s your best targeted approach professionally and personally.

The bigger question is how do you want to live your life and what is success, really, to you?

Oh, and try not to smell bad either.